Etiquette: No fishing for gossip or trying to get other opinions

If people are fishing for gossip or trying to get your opinion on gossip about your employer or employees, BE VAGUE.  It is none of their business.   
If two parents or governesses are talking about someone else governess or a parent be aware that it is not right or fair.  Their personal and professional relationship is their business.  If you don’t have a good relationship of trust with the person you are talking to, then don’t talk.  Do not talk about other people’s governesses unless you absolutely trust the person not to say anything to anyone else. 


  1. Or another common one: don't whine to your kids about their govie. It ALWAYS gets back to them.

  2. Having recently been gossiped about I can categorically say that it's a cruel, gutless practice done by small minded people with nothing better to do. While we all discuss what goes on, fishing for information and then passing on what you hear without getting the truth... and even adding your own version is very distructive to those involved. The rule is quite simple: if you can't say it to someone's face - don't say it. And if it's personal - don't pass it on.